Marriage: Yes or No?

A friend of mine ask us girls 2 days ago whether we would go for marriage.

Our answers were collectively yes, mainly because of religion.

He then asked : what if religion was out of the equation?

Kaget terus....

After giving some thought, here's my answer.

YES, I will still choose marriage.

Not because of the property and moolah. That can be solved by separating what's yours and mine. No shared account. I can have my place and he can have his place. We will live in either one, and the other rented out/ be the weekend getaway/ place to chill after fights/etc. No sweat.

YES to marriage for commitment reasons. When two are legally bound in matrimony, the other can't run off as and when one likes. Example: Children are huge responsibilities. Without the legal bind, one of the two can just up and go, no frills. At least when the two are legally bound, they can't just run away just because.

YES to marriage for emotional reasons. I'm a woman, and I admit women are more emotionally tangled up when it comes to relationships. If I'm going to sleep with someone, I would very much like to sleep with just that ONE, thank you very much. I may be missing out on variety, but variety does not equate good. It becomes just another physical act night after night. Not what I want.

Which brings to another point: YES to marriage for security reasons. As I said before, I would very much like to sleep with just that ONE. I want to feel loved by someONE, not just anyONE, y'know? I mean, what if Lover of the Day is Mr. Robber, or Mr. Sex-maniac-who-kills-after-one-night-stand, or Mr. Blackmail?

YES to marriage because of my damned pride. I want to be wanted. I want to own and be owned.

I think I'll just rest my case here.

Food for thought: If marriage (proposal) comes into play, couples must first discuss and agree upon 4 things:

1. In-laws: live-in or live out? (2 women at loggerheads makes one ball-less dude)
2. Finance issues (main cause of divorce)
3. Children's discipline (No such thing as "my dad, your mom" among kids)
4. Religion (A house of two religions will only make the kids confused)

After Thought: I need time to think again issues before I can give answers without making a fool outta myself.

Postscript/PS: I need to work on my debating skills. Anyone sells brain lubricant?

Old vs Treachery

A wealthy old lady decides to go on a photo safari in Africa, taking her faithful aged poodle named Cuddles along for the company.

One day the poodle starts chasing butterflies and before long, Cuddles discovers that he's lost. Wandering about, he notices a leopard heading rapidly in his direction with the intention of having lunch.

The old poodle thinks, 'Oh, oh! I'm in deep doo-doo now!' Noticing some bones on the ground close by, he immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the approaching cat. Just as the leopard is about to leap the old poodle exclaims loudly, 'Boy, that was one delicious leopard! I wonder if there are any more around here?'

Hearing this, the young leopard halts his attack in mid-strike, a look of terror comes over him and he slinks away into the trees. 'Whew!' says the leopard, 'That was close! That old poodle nearly had me!'

Meanwhile, a monkey who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree, figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the leopard. So off he goes, but the old poodle sees him heading after the leopard with great speed, and figures that something must be up. The monkey soon catches up with the leopard, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the leopard.

The young leopard is furious at being made a fool of and says, 'Here, monkey, hop on my back and see what's going to happen to that conniving canine!

Now, the old poodle sees the leopard coming with the monkey on his back and thinks, 'What am I going to do now?', but instead of running, the dog sits down with his back to his attackers, pretending he hasn't seen them yet, and just when they get close enough to hear, the old poodle says,



'Where's that damn monkey? I sent him off an hour ago to bring me another leopard!

Moral of this story....

Don't mess with old farts .. age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! Bullshit and brilliance only come with age and experience.

Do forward to some "old" friend to give them a "youthful" laugh.

I am in no way insinuating that any of you are old, it's just that some are just more youthfully challenged.

:P