From Myopic Lenses: Marriage: Yes or No?

A friend of mine ask us girls 2 days ago whether we would go for marriage.

Our answers were collectively yes, mainly because of religion.

He then asked : what if religion was out of the equation?

Kaget terus....

After giving some thought, here's my answer.

YES, I will still choose marriage.

Not because of the property and moolah. That can be solved by separating what's yours and mine. No shared account. I can have my place and he can have his place. We will live in either one, and the other rented out/ be the weekend getaway/ place to chill after fights/etc. No sweat.

YES to marriage for commitment reasons. When two are legally bound in matrimony, the other can't run off as and when one likes. Example: Children are huge responsibilities. Without the legal bind, one of the two can just up and go, no frills. At least when the two are legally bound, they can't just run away just because.

YES to marriage for emotional reasons. I'm a woman, and I admit women are more emotionally tangled up when it comes to relationships. If I'm going to sleep with someone, I would very much like to sleep with just that ONE, thank you very much. I may be missing out on variety, but variety does not equate good. It becomes just another physical act night after night. Not what I want.

Which brings to another point: YES to marriage for security reasons. As I said before, I would very much like to sleep with just that ONE. I want to feel loved by someONE, not just anyONE, y'know? I mean, what if Lover of the Day is Mr. Robber, or Mr. Sex-maniac-who-kills-after-one-night-stand, or Mr. Blackmail?

YES to marriage because of my damned pride. I want to be wanted. I want to own and be owned.

I think I'll just rest my case here.

Food for thought: If marriage (proposal) comes into play, couples must first discuss and agree upon 4 things: